Is it Possible to Move on After Loss?

When you open your heart up to someone and then lose them, you lose a part of yourself too. When you are connected with that person you don’t feel the part you gave away because it is always close. But when they are gone, the ache begins. Your heart, which has all this time been convinced that the missing part was there, now begins to bleed. It’s like when a person is injured and they don’t notice or feel the pain right away, but once they realize they are hurt, it all hits at once. The pain, the shock. There’s no real way to prepare for it. Once such an injury takes place in the heart the only solution is to heal what you gave away. This takes time. But no one likes the process, which is painful. This is why we do everything in our power to conceal the wound. We try to fill it with someone else’s heart, or we try to get back the part we lost from the person we gave it to. Some call this rebounding in regards to relationships, and in regards to death we also try to find a way to get them back. For both instances this is sometimes done through clinging to material items associated with that person. But we won’t find them there no matter how hard we try. Those items won’t fill the void and won’t stop the bleeding.

There is a mourning process when we lose someone, whether through death or a broken heart. Time will heal but it will not be easy, and it will not be painless. You must keep close to those around you who still love you. Share the pain with them so they can help the process. Those who do not do this often find themselves with an infection of the heart when it does not heal correctly. In this case it heals bitterly and angrily. Or perhaps it becomes calloused, and your ability to love is compromised. The only way to rid yourself of an infection or callous is to rip it out again. This is only more painful than the first time, and it takes even longer to heal properly.

But the process of healing is powerful. It not only just shows us how weak and vulnerable we can be, but it also shows us how strong and brave we can be as well.

Enduring the process of healing is a powerful experience when you become conscious and self-aware of all your opportunities and abilities to grow. Nobody likes to suffer, but suffering is a necessary part of our lives. Through suffering we become better versions of ourselves, but only when we choose to be strong and face the truth before us. If we do not forgive, and do not accept our suffering, we will be stuck in our own misery and our hearts will not heal. But if we do forgive, and do acknowledge our suffering, our hearts will finally stop bleeding and eventually heal.